Why I Don't Do New Year's Resolutions

 Last night I went out to dinner with a friend and she asked me, "do you do resolutions?"


I do intentions. And, as I explained to Julia that feels really different. 

I guess for me New Year's Resolutions always felt like they were inherently a critique on what I was currently doing, who I was, or how I showed up in the world.

Whereas for me setting intentions is about what I want to bring into my life.

It's pretty aligned with how I see my work with children and supporting children who I find challenging. As you know, I take a strength based approach...accept and embrace what is and ask where can we go from here? 

One of my intentions for this year is to play more. I was feeling playful today after recording one of the 2019 Transform Challenging Behavior Online Conference (TCBOC) sessions so I made this little graphic to remind myself of my 3 biggest 2019 intentions and I thought I'd share it with you. 

The picture is of me on my front porch. It's where I do my daily gratitude practice in my journal...or if I'm in a hurry at least in my head. Well, and honestly I don't actually do it daily but that's my intention and I do it as often as I can...and I don't beat myself up when I skip it!

My front porch is a place where I truly savor the sun and sweet breeze each and every time I experience it. Having grown up in New York and lived in places with cold winters for most of my life I NEVER take the Southern California weather for granted.

One of my plans (not goals, its happening people!) for 2019 is to create systems so that I can be more efficient in both my work and life tasks in order to have more time to play and spend time with the people I love.

And, even on the days when I'm super busy and paddling upstream in inefficiency my intention is to find and savor those sweet moments that are surely always there...on a good day maybe I can even savor what I'm learning from the chaos.

What are your intentions for 2019? Let me know in the comments below.

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