Ever notice how some teachers rarely complain about behavior problems?
They’re not lucky. And their kids aren’t magically easier.
What they are doing is something most of us were never taught:
✨They connect through play
✨They stay calm and consistent
✨They set limits in firm, compassionate ways
✨They’re playful but not permissive
One teacher told me she used to dread mornings. The power struggles would start the moment kids walked through the door — refusing directions, hitting, throwing toys…
She thought being more nurturing would help, so she gave in more. But the chaos only got worse.
It wasn’t until she learned how to set clear, confident boundaries while staying connected and playful that things finally shifted.
Now she sings her way through transitions, uses puppets during circle time, and confidently steps in when a limit needs to be held.
That’s what I mean when I talk about a third option — not strict, not overly permissive, but something more powerful.
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