I’ve got a fun challenge for you today…

I still remember the first time I took a leap of faith and really leaned into connection with a child whose behaviors honestly scared me a little.

That first step? Terrifying.
But also…transformational.

Once I tried something different—something intentional—the momentum started to build. And now? I want to pass that spark to YOU. ✨

🎯 Your mission (should you choose to accept it):
Use the “Yes, And” strategy to join the play of the child who challenges you most—just once this week.

Not to “fix” anything overnight. But to take one small, powerful step toward building trust.

Here’s how the Yes, And Strategy works:

Step 1 – YES / Imitate
Join their world. Match their play, repeat what they say, or do something simple and similar.
(They’re building a block road? You add a block. They’re cooking? You say, “I’m hungry.”)

Step 2 – AND / Expand
After a bit, add a tiny twist.
(Make a garage for the road. Say “Honk honk!” when your car hits a bump. Ask for juice if they’re cooking.)

Step 3 – Repeat Step 1.
Yep, just go back to joining. Keep it light. No pressure.

You might be thinking: Barb… really? This helps with challenging behavior??
YES. Because joining a child’s play is one of the most powerful ways to build trust and co-regulation. It shows respect. It lays the groundwork for cooperation. And honestly? Sometimes it feels like magic.

So—are you in?

👉 Click here to take the challenge and share your #win

Remember:
A #win just means you tried it. Not that everything changed overnight. It’s about momentum, not perfection.

I’ll be cheering you on the whole way.

On your mark, get set… GO! 🚀